Chivalry is not dead

Chivalry..a word that reminds me back of my Intro to Psychology class during sophomore. I remember my lecturer brought up about the extinction of chivalry; how so few men owns that character. However, for me, experiencing living outside of my home country, I think there're too much chivalry in men. Most of them were very sincere in helping others especially the opposite sex. I still remember during my first year, a guy saw me heading to the door from the 1st floor. He went back downstairs just to open up the door for me. Most guys did that; opening door for the ladies. I even had a teammate who told me to let him operate the heavy machinery because he said that he couldn't see ladies did that when he could help them. There're still many chivalrous men, how could my lecturer said about its extinction.

It was until when I came back to my home country for good. Door always almost hits on my face; guys were too chicken to lead and leave the role to ladies; has mostly been pushed by guys in a queue..etc..etc..I can see that most guys help other ladies with some hidden agendas. So then I thought chivalry was dead.

However, this afternoon when I was coming out from a mall to the parking lot, a man was holding the door for some people who are coming out. I observed that no one bothered bout that. There are even two ladies who were talking to each other walking very slow without ever realizing about that man. So, when I walked pass the door I smiled, nod at him and simply said "Thank you". He smiled back, and I'm sure he felt appreciated with that simple words. It's sad to see that a kind gesture being ignored like that. I wonder why some people don't even bother to be nice; then I got the answer that time: no one appreciates. Just imagine if you were that man; you are doing something nice, then everyone ignores that gesture...what would you do? If I were him, I might just forget about holding door for people after that.

Come on people, chivalry is not dead so don't kill it but appreciate it!